I have come to the realization that as a young black woman I am ALONE in both of my faculties. Political Science at my university is dominated by white men. Women’s and Gender Studies is dominated by white women…they hire token POC in contract positions, but none of these womyn are ever kept on as full-time faculty. It’s so shady because these contract instructors do not receive the same benefits even if they are doing the same (and sometimes MORE) work.
Today I met with this white woman who is supposed to be the department go to for guidance/supervision. She was so rude and condescending to me! Subtle racism at its finest. This is why I can’t trust white feminists who claim to want equality and whatnot…And the most messed up thing with white women who claim to be feminists is that they put you down with a smile. It’s something I can’t get over and it can really eat at your soul.
Anyways, I am entering into my final year of university feeling like a fraud…my thoughts have been heralded throughout these years but now I feel like I am just another black student to be tokenized rather than truly valued. I wish I didn’t buy into this BS.
today on my way home, a lady stopped me to compliment my locs. She had a patchy low cut sprinkled with greys but I didnt pay much attention to it. She asked about my natural hair journey and showed me pictures of her old locs, grazing the small of her back. When i asked why she cut them…
Usually it’s best to ask someone how they’re doing now. Sometimes just listening is the best comfort you can give, especially to a stranger.
“Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.”—
So i’ve been getting really frustrated with my hair lately. I started my loc journey back in November (4 months ago) and it just didn’t seem to be going the way i wanted. While there are sections of my hair that seems to be mating up and locking fine other sections such as the front where my hair…
I also started my locs in November and it hasn’t been easy but I have a few tips.
Your loctician definitely should have told you to moisturize your hair as frequently as it is needed. I’ve found that water is my hair’s best friend and I pretty much let it get soaking wet under the shower head every few days. Between that, I make sure that it’s oiled properly so that the moisture stays sealed in.
I’m having a similar issue with the front of my hair not locking, so I did interlock a few at the front. This has been really useful! Just make sure that your loctician knows what she/he is doing or else they’ll turn out really skinny.
Definitely check out Youtube videos on locs and find some loc forums (like the Nappturality forum) and there will be loads of advice for loc newbies. I hope you stick with it!
The natural hair movement is for Black people, whose natural hair (Afros, dreadlocks, twists, braids, etc.) is not widely accepted by society. You know whose “natural” hair is accepted? The Eurocentric (white) standard: straight!
I don’t give a fuck if you happen to have curly hair. If you are…
Umm no. “Natural hair” is just that…natural hair. African-American women rejecting perms in droves today is definitely a movement, but the use of the term “natural hair” is not unique to Black women.
Yes, the white Eurocentric standard for hair is straight hair…which is why it’s important for anyone and everyone to reject this as the ideal look for women. If a white woman with curly hair decides to stop straightening her hair, then that curly hair is her “natural hair.”
It’s one thing to say that white women should stop appropriating specific hairstyles, or culturally specific terms like “locs,” but a phrase referring to one’s hair in its natural state? Naw…
First of all, misandry, like reverse-racism, doesn’t exist. And no amount of man-hating from me can do SHIT to harm male privilege. And the mere fact that, idk, complaining about street harassment and the behavior of men gets me labeled a man-hater frequently and with so much disgust SHOWS how…
I wanted to see the antonym to misandry and found Dictionary.com trolling. “Cynicism” is the main synonym they offer for misandry. Smh…lol.
Hmm I just read through your post. I usually lurk through the tags, but I don’t even update my own Tumblr. However, I felt the need to reblog/respond. First, the very example you gave of “queer” being appropriated is not really pertinent to this discussion because the word was reclaimed and reappropriated by the LGBTQ community. That is different from simple appropriation, which is usually when the dominant group of oppressors take possession over the subjugated group. The word used to mean “strange” and oppressors used it to refer to homosexuals.
You have to understand that for marginalized communities, especially black people around the world who have experienced and continue to experience systemic oppression, things that may seem superficial to you like hair are not. Hair has never been some superficial subject within the black community. That’s why people take things seriously and personally. Heck, there are even films and books devoted to the discussion of black people’s hair. So the anon’s comment wasn’t about being “protective,” it was about venting a frustration (if I may put words into your mouth, dear Anon).
Black people’s bodies, including their hair, have been regulated for centuries by white oppressors. A good example of this is Sarah Baartman, or colonial cartoons. Black people have been told that something is wrong with their hair as it grows naturally, and they have internalized this over the years. So for many people, locs are a personal journey to self-love and acceptance in a world that says everything about you, including your natural hair, is ugly or undesirable.
Of course YOU can call your hair whatever you want. The question is should you just because it’s your privilege? I can’t answer that one. However, I encourage you to listen to marginalized voices, even the “angry” ones. When someone says they feel that you are appropriating something and this makes them uncomfortable, instead of getting defensive, employ empathy and aim to understand that person’s perspective. THAT is how you can do your part to stop perpetuating racism and racial stereotypes.
I remain perplexed and disturbed by the onslaught of Anons asking me to stop “appropriating” the “black term” of Locs. As a white person, I have never looked down on ANYONE because of the way they choose to wear their hair, and I find it shocking that other communities are so protective over…
What’s the point of eating junk foods with 30% less fat etc? I was looking forward to eating Oreos until I bit into one and realized it was the supposedly healthier kind…It tastes like ass. If I wanted a healthier choice, I’d eat a celery stick dammit!